Presence: the quality of making a strong impression on other people by the way you talk or behave; a person who has quality (Oxford Learner's Dictionary).  

It was no fun being the new kid at school; especially in seventh grade. I had zero friends and was especially lonely. Looking back, I think I was suffering from serious depression. As a shy introvert, my days in a loud, chaotic middle school were overwhelming – except in Mrs. Holder's English class. That was a daily sanctuary for me. 

Mrs. Holder expected students to be quiet and complete writing assignments. I liked that. As a teacher, she gave a terrified newcomer something to look forward to every day. She was firm, kind, and consistent. Even when offering strict discipline, her eyes were gentle. She was a safe haven.  

"You write well Chrissy. Your expression with words is a gift you should always develop."  

From the day Mrs. Holder recognized writing as an essential element of my identity, she helped me enter essay competitions that I placed in. She taught me how to facilitate in class groups to help other students edit writing assignments. I only recognized this as a safe space and someone who helped me feel good about myself. What I did not realize is that this teacher was meeting me where I was, affirming my gifts, and using them to help me develop confidence and self-efficacy to live well during that difficult transitional year.   

At a critical turning point in my life, Mrs. Holder's presence was crucial for my wellbeing. Without her help, things could have turned out much differently. I may have found unhealthy ways to cope.   

Today I am still a writer. Writing as a lifelong practice began in her classroom. Her classroom is also where I discovered my desire to travel and connect with new cultures and people. I have been involved in global work now for over fifteen years. All of this has been rewarding for me and I am beyond grateful for the part she played in it. What I did not see coming was that one day in my early forties I would become a middle school teacher as well – like Mrs. Holder – only I'm teaching P.E.  

I pray my presence can be life-giving for my students. And I am thankful for the teacher during my seventh-grade year who saw her work not merely as a job, but as a sacred vocation.